You're tired of waiting. Tired of the ambiguity, the "what are we?" conversations that go nowhere, the feeling that you're more invested than he is. And you want to know: what do I actually need to do to make him commit?
The Hard Truth Nobody Wants to Hear
What Commitment Actually Looks Like (And What It Doesn't)
The Counterintuitive Move That Actually Works
The Real Work Happens Inside You
The Line You Need to Draw (And Mean It)
When It's Actually Time to Leave
If you need help holding clearer boundaries while you figure this out, the Healthy Boundaries Toolkit is a calm, practical support resource.
Moving Forward
Short answer
You can't make someone commit, but you can absolutely position yourself so commitment becomes his choice, here's exactly how.
The point is to read the pattern clearly, protect your footing, and respond from steadiness instead of panic.
I hear this question constantly. And I'm going to be honest with you right from the start, most people who ask this don't actually want the answer they're going to get.
If the real issue is boundaries and mixed signals, Breadcrumbing vs Genuine Interest: How to Tell the Difference is the best next read.